*As seen in Leaders In Heels. By Samantha Krajina
As busy women, it can sometimes seem that as we get older (and even as we get busier) the more commitments we seem to have, the more responsibility we appear to take on and the less time we have in a day. Prioritizing our necessities looks like the logical(and really, only) way to get through everything we need to do, from our spouses, children, careers, etc. Fitting in the time for ourselves, as well as our friends and family tends to be one of the first things to drop straight to the bottom of our list, yet it is one very important aspect of your life that can help with the drawbacks of being busy – stress!
There are a number guilt-free, easy to manage ways in which we can incorporate our friends and family into a busy schedule:
Common Grounds. Any form of common ground that you can find with your family or friends, which should be an easy task with your close circle, should be used to your advantage. Maybe you both have kids that can play whilst you catch up, or pets that can go for a walk or even add on an extra 15 minutes to your grocery shop and do it together. Being able to coordinate the activities you do alike together is kind of a nice way of that saying “hitting two birds with one stone”.
Take away any pressure or expectation. Hanging out with family or friends doesn’t need to be a special occasion or a fully fledged social ordeal, it can be the most beautiful and relaxing experience to sit at home with a glass of wine and watch an episode of trashy TV you’re your company and just unwind. Don’t put any pressure on what fun and exciting activity you could be doing, when they want to be in your life and spend time with you because of you, so focus on being just that.
Conquer together. Set some new goals and see them through together. Not only will having someone there to ensure you’re committed, but you also create new memories and experiences to celebrate jointly. Whether it’s to get fit and healthy and you go to the gym to work out, or if it is to learn a new language or skill and you go to classes together, you can design your goals and objectives to contain more than just success, but also fun and togetherness.
A girls gotta eat. Coordinating meals seems to be the luxurious way ladies of leisure spend their time together as “ladies who lunch”. It doesn’t need to have that stigma. Synchronizing lunch schedules or even family dinner nights can be a low-key, easy going way to spend time with your family or friends whilst doing the normal things. It’s being able to open your mind and see the opportunity where you can do things together with ease.
Schedule and prioritize. It’s easy to say “Let’s catch up soon” or “I will give you a call when I get a free minute”, but it too often gets lost in the weekly chaos. Prioritize your friends and family, even if it means putting a reminder in your calendar to call them. As a busy woman, having a strict calendar is essential, so you have no excuse to schedule them in also along side your other commitments. The more you do this, the more normal it becomes and the more you will enjoy it for what it is worth.
In saying all of that, it is equally important to make time for yourself. They are like you and your best friend; they go hand in hand! With good people in your life and enjoying time spent with your family and friends, your happiness and joys in life are magnified and any troubles or sadness is shared.